Single Mans Diary

I am a 30 yr old single Jewish dude in California. I work in entertainment, college educated, decent looking, very insecure, neurotic, super sensitive, funny, confused and totally together. These are my adventures in dating, sex, love, and how I truly feel about the women I go out with. Please let me know what you think. I'd love to hear your honest opinions. Oh, and yes the grammar sucks I know. It's like that for a reason, trust me don't ask. - - Single Man's Diary The Book, Coming 2010

October 16, 2009

The Numbers Game

To date I’ve slept with 127 women. That’s actual intercourse. Random blowjobs and drunk make outs remain uncounted. How do I know it’s exactly 127? Well, like an extremely immature prick, I’ve counted. I didn’t really mean to, and I never did it with any specific goal, or a purpose of seeing just how high of a number I could get.

I was 17 or 18. A friend and I began counting on our hands the number of time’s we’d had sex. I counted 6. I figured I better write them down so I wouldn’t forget. I grabbed an old address book and wrote down the 6 names. Jocelyn, Tina, Alli, Barbara, Kayla and Samantha. From then on I wrote down the name of every woman I ever slept with so I wouldn’t forget her, or the experience.

I still use the same, ratty, busted up address book. Every time I jot down a new woman’s name I look through the old ones. Some I can’t even remember, some bring back amazing memories.

When I dated T.H.L.S.B.C, she told me she hadn’t had sex for 6 months before me. Then after an S.T.D. scare, told me that it had actually been 2 weeks. I told one of my good female friends about this. She told me that women ALWAYS lie about their past sexual behavior.

I’m guilty of that, too. I’ve been asked, “So how many girl’s have you been with?”

I always say 40-50, with the fear that honest (127 women) will provoke severe nausea, or a hand across my face.

I’ve asked women I’ve dated the same question. It’s a sticky one for me. Like, I want to know their sexual past, but I REALLY DON”T want to fucking know. Women definitely run the risk of looking like slut’s WAY more than men do. It’s fucked up. I mean, by sleeping with 127 I can either come off like a very promiscuous guy, a man whore, or a smooth talker. If a woman said she slept with 127 dudes, it would most likely come off extremely whorish 99% of the time.

It’s a double-edged sword. Do you feel more comfortable knowing your partner has been with 10 people and is slightly inexperienced, or has been with 75 and knows exactly what he/she wants? I can’t figure it out.