"Someday"
I’ve been in many relationships that started out wonderfully, but ended up in some sort of stalemate. Something happened. She did some shady shit, got too drunk one too many times, became lethargic about sex, whatever. We’d have a talk about it and move on, but shit wouldn’t change. Then we’d have another talk about it, and it still wouldn’t change. Before I knew it I saw sitting in a pile of “someday”. I’m sure many of you reading this are in this exact situation, now.
You sit in relationship cruise control while telling yourself—“I care for him/her and I will stick around, but I’m not going to fully commit until they stop doing this, or start doing that. If they can’t give me 100% than why should I?” Months go by as you sit in relationship cruise control in some ridiculous silent stand off. But nothing ever changes, or changes like it should. Maybe there’s a sprinkle of change but nothing like you ask for or desire. Then, months and months and months later you break up.
I think one of the most fundamental rules in relationship’s & dating is that people DO.NOT change. What you got now is what it always will be. If they are shady, they will always be shady. If they don’t call enough, or you feel like you like them more than they like you, it won’t change. If they are always having problems with bills or cash or whatever, that’s the future, too. There isn’t ever going to be a “someday”, or a “one day, maybe”.
I will leave you with a quote from one of the finest actors, and finest films of our generation:
That’s it, I’m done! – Ben Affleck in “Boiler Room”
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